As time passes

Well, today I can say my child is 7 months and a day old. How did we manage it so far? It’s pretty darn hard I would say. There are definitely good days and definitely bad days. Somehow when the bad outweighs the good, when the good comes, the bad is forgotten. Thanks to the mummy brain. I’m more forgetful (or maybe it’s cos I’m not working and thus don’t really need to use my brain) about the little things. But I try. I try really hard.

When Nate was 6 months, he started sleeping through the night. We call it STTN and it’s about 7-8 hours. He would sleep by 8pm and wake up around 4-6am for a feed. We were so elated about it then. We could even play L4D2 when he is in his cot sleeping.

And then….. he went for his vaccination. I remember it clearly. It was the day before Mel & James’ wedding. We thought he would be fine, as with all vaccines before. But boy, were we wrong.

This vaccine was the 6-in-1 and pneumococcal jab. So it was 2 jabs on each thigh. It was a painful ordeal. The previous jabs he only had a slight fever. But this time, he had a fever throughout the night and had difficulty sleeping. Nic and I woke up to give him paracetamol. The first time we opened it since  we got it from his first vaccine when he was a month old. He didn’t take to the medicine well. And most was on his romper. We didn’t sleep much so we needed the entire day to recover – both Nic and I.

After that night, he ended up waking for 2-3 feeds per night. After putting him to bed at 8pm, he would wake up about 12mn and then 4-5am for another feed. Poor Nic, he was doing the night feed and sadly, it got worse. The timings became more erratic and sometimes I could hear him cry murder when Nic went to make milk/change his diaper.

Yesterday, we were helping a friend sing for a friend’s wedding. And yet again, Nate decided to test us by giving us a horrid night. We could not not attend this wedding. He woke up at 11pm, 3am and then 6am and about an hour before Nic fed him. Seeing Nic and hearing that he already fed Nate twice, I helped him out in the morning so he could get a bit more sleep.

We managed to get to the church on time. Nate couldn’t or wouldn’t sleep at all. I think this is cos we hardly go out so when we are out, he wants to take in as much as he can. Until he can’t take it anymore, then he will sleep.

After the mass, we had some food and dropped jie and gerard in town before heading back. On the way back, Nate started making noise and then fell asleep. I drove a longer route so that both him and Nic can rest in the car a bit more.

When we got home, Nic took care of Nate while I went to sleep. When I woke up, I didn’t feel so good. I went down to buy lunch and after having lunch, didn’t feel very good. But managed to make some puree for Nate. I tried to sleep but was feeling nauseous. Nic went down to buy dinner and brought Nate with him when I finally fell asleep.

Nic came back and told me he dropped by the massage shop and spoke to the owner about my headache. So I went down and had a shoulder massage to ease it. When I came home, I couldn’t finish dinner. But went ahead to take vitamins. I think it was due to all the water I drank, I finally puked.

I felt a bit better but then before sleeping, I felt I had the urge again but I hate puking and I didn’t want to. So I went to bed. Halfway through the night, I woke up because of Nic’s snoring and he went outside to sleep.

Miraculously, we all slept through till 6am. I woke up several times during the night because of the amount of water I drank. But when I went out at 6am to ask Nic to come back into the room, he said that he didn’t feed Nate all night.

So, we suspect that Nic and Nate were annoying each other and waking each other up. HAHAHAHA. It’s a vicious cycle really. Nic snore, Nate stirs, wakes up and wants to drink milk before going back to sleep and Nic is tired. And the whole process repeats itself. We didn’t have such a good night’s rest in a while. I think this is why today feels like a much better day for us.

We are more patient and less irritable. It’s really difficult taking care of a baby during the night. But somehow we managed to pull through. Well, Nic managed to pull through. And I am so thankful for that.

I hope that this solves one of the problems we have been having so far because we know that Nate can sleep through the night.




Before we went to the hospital.. After having dinner at mum’s house..


Thought the laughing gas would suffice.. Unfortunately it did not..


When the baby was born!


Having skin-to-skin contact 🙂


All bundled up and receiving guests..


Excited big aunt carrying him.. haha..


When we came back home and i was changing him.. Super duper cutie pie 🙂

Having a baby

Well, it’s been 2 weeks since Nathanael came.. Maybe I should share what the birth experience was like… Also, backlogging my posts because I didn’t have the energy/feels to do it when I was in my third trimester.

So let me recap what happened…..

Nathanael was supposed to be due on 22nd Feb (2 days ago actually). Since our 36th week of pregnancy, we were told to come back weekly for check up with the gynae.. On our 37th week check up, I mentioned to the doctor that Nathanael was moving less in my tummy, although he still moves, it wasn’t as active as before. He took an ultrasound and deemed that everything was ok, his development was fine, the amniotic fluid was fine.

However, on our 38th week, I told him that he still isn’t as active as before and when he scanned, he noticed that the amniotic fluid was low and told us that we had to induce labour for the baby to come out..

The reason is this: Amniotic fluid in the womb is actually the baby’s pee. If the fluid is low, it means that the baby isn’t peeing enough which in turn suggests that the placenta is no longer efficient in providing the baby nutrients to grow..

As he is already 38 weeks along and fully developed by then, the doctor told us that the baby can come out already the next day.. We definitely weren’t ready for that! It was only the beginning of Feb when we found out..

So that day, when my husband went back to work, I went home and got ready most of the baby things.. Thank God we packed the hospital bag when we hit the final trimester and got everything that the baby needed before he came..

I put the mattress cover over the mattress, anticipating to do it that weekend instead.. Checked and double checked that we had everything.. Mum came in the evening and Nick came home early from work.. We did our last minute packing and then we went to mum’s place for dinner and rested until it was time to check into the hospital..

Our gynae kept emphasizing to check in after 12mn as any earlier would have additional charges and it would be considered a day’s stay. So after mn, we checked into the delivery suite and there, we waited..

I was dilated at 2cm which did not seem to be opening at all. So at 1am, a nurse inserted a pill into the vagina and we rested.. However, when my doctor came in the morning, he asked why I looked so comfortable.. Apparently, the pill didn’t work.. So he manually burst my water bag at 7am.. I was quite sad because I thought he could come out early and it was definitely a waiting game at this point in time..

There was another couple who checked in about the same time as us and they were out of the delivery suite by morning.. So imagine how sad I was that I had to spend MORE time in the delivery suite..

After the water bag burst, I still didn’t want an epidural but I wasn’t ready for how bad the contractions were to come. I thought using the laughing gas would suffice but it wasn’t.. I felt like I was inhaling plastic and gave up after a while.. Our gynae came before lunch time to check up on us but I was only dilated 3-4cm.. I couldn’t take the pain anymore so I requested for an epidural..

I was scared when the epidural was inserted and moved quite a bit but the anesthetist was super skilled and he put it in with no problem.. and thankfully the nurse was there and I held her hand because the contractions were painful and I was scared..

Right after the epidural was inserted, the pain was gone.. I relaxed much easier and even managed to sleep for a while.. Then, it was lunch time, so I told Nick to go and have his lunch and then come back and hopefully the baby will be out..

Just when he left, I felt the contractions coming in strong again.. I thought the epidural isn’t working.. I called for a nurse and she upped the amount of epidural.. I could feel like I needed to pass motion and needed to push.. She checked my dilation and I was up to 9cm.. FINALLY!! Just 1cm more to go then the baby can come out.. At that time, Nick was still having lunch and the nurse started prepping for the arrival of the little one.. I was getting excited.. like finally, we can leave this cold place!

When Nick came back, he thought I had given birth but I told him I can give birth already.. LOL.. We waited for the doctor to arrive.. Before he arrived, 2 nurses came in and asked me to push so that the baby’s head would be 10% out by the time our gynae arrived..

I pushed a few times and she said very good!! can see the head!! nick went to see and he was like OMG I CAN SEE HIS HEAD! hahaha.. he has hair!! it was quite funny.. and then on another push, they told me to stop and just rest.. And they said the baby was sliding out by himself.. I thought he was sliding back in..

Anyway, our gynae finally arrived and I gave 1.5 pushes and Nathanael was out! After that everything happened so fast.. Nick cut the umbilical cord and then oversaw the baby when the nurse was checking him and our gynae was stitching me up and removing the placenta..

We requested for some skin contact time and it was nice 🙂 I actually look refreshed in the pictures because I didn’t have to push so much.. The pushing and delivering of the baby only took 15-20mins? But the labour part to dilate took WAAAAYYYY  much longer.. 14hrs to be exact.. It was a super long labour.. But I’m glad we didn’t have to do an emergency c-sect..

Then, we were pushed to our single-bedded ward which was super nice at St Raphael Ward in Mount Alvernia Hospital. It was one of the older wards as there was a new St Michael Ward but we were happy with it anyways..

The next few days were a huge blur as so many people came and visited us at the hospital and then we were discharged from the hospital 2 days later..