As time passes

Well, today I can say my child is 7 months and a day old. How did we manage it so far? It’s pretty darn hard I would say. There are definitely good days and definitely bad days. Somehow when the bad outweighs the good, when the good comes, the bad is forgotten. Thanks to the mummy brain. I’m more forgetful (or maybe it’s cos I’m not working and thus don’t really need to use my brain) about the little things. But I try. I try really hard.

When Nate was 6 months, he started sleeping through the night. We call it STTN and it’s about 7-8 hours. He would sleep by 8pm and wake up around 4-6am for a feed. We were so elated about it then. We could even play L4D2 when he is in his cot sleeping.

And then….. he went for his vaccination. I remember it clearly. It was the day before Mel & James’ wedding. We thought he would be fine, as with all vaccines before. But boy, were we wrong.

This vaccine was the 6-in-1 and pneumococcal jab. So it was 2 jabs on each thigh. It was a painful ordeal. The previous jabs he only had a slight fever. But this time, he had a fever throughout the night and had difficulty sleeping. Nic and I woke up to give him paracetamol. The first time we opened it sinceΒ  we got it from his first vaccine when he was a month old. He didn’t take to the medicine well. And most was on his romper. We didn’t sleep much so we needed the entire day to recover – both Nic and I.

After that night, he ended up waking for 2-3 feeds per night. After putting him to bed at 8pm, he would wake up about 12mn and then 4-5am for another feed. Poor Nic, he was doing the night feed and sadly, it got worse. The timings became more erratic and sometimes I could hear him cry murder when Nic went to make milk/change his diaper.

Yesterday, we were helping a friend sing for a friend’s wedding. And yet again, Nate decided to test us by giving us a horrid night. We could not not attend this wedding. He woke up at 11pm, 3am and then 6am and about an hour before Nic fed him. Seeing Nic and hearing that he already fed Nate twice, I helped him out in the morning so he could get a bit more sleep.

We managed to get to the church on time. Nate couldn’t or wouldn’t sleep at all. I think this is cos we hardly go out so when we are out, he wants to take in as much as he can. Until he can’t take it anymore, then he will sleep.

After the mass, we had some food and dropped jie and gerard in town before heading back. On the way back, Nate started making noise and then fell asleep. I drove a longer route so that both him and Nic can rest in the car a bit more.

When we got home, Nic took care of Nate while I went to sleep. When I woke up, I didn’t feel so good. I went down to buy lunch and after having lunch, didn’t feel very good. But managed to make some puree for Nate. I tried to sleep but was feeling nauseous. Nic went down to buy dinner and brought Nate with him when I finally fell asleep.

Nic came back and told me he dropped by the massage shop and spoke to the owner about my headache. So I went down and had a shoulder massage to ease it. When I came home, I couldn’t finish dinner. But went ahead to take vitamins. I think it was due to all the water I drank, I finally puked.

I felt a bit better but then before sleeping, I felt I had the urge again but I hate puking and I didn’t want to. So I went to bed. Halfway through the night, I woke up because of Nic’s snoring and he went outside to sleep.

Miraculously, we all slept through till 6am. I woke up several times during the night because of the amount of water I drank. But when I went out at 6am to ask Nic to come back into the room, he said that he didn’t feed Nate all night.

So, we suspect that Nic and Nate were annoying each other and waking each other up. HAHAHAHA. It’s a vicious cycle really. Nic snore, Nate stirs, wakes up and wants to drink milk before going back to sleep and Nic is tired. And the whole process repeats itself. We didn’t have such a good night’s rest in a while. I think this is why today feels like a much better day for us.

We are more patient and less irritable. It’s really difficult taking care of a baby during the night. But somehow we managed to pull through. Well, Nic managed to pull through. And I am so thankful for that.

I hope that this solves one of the problems we have been having so far because we know that Nate can sleep through the night.

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Pictures

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Before we went to the hospital.. After having dinner at mum’s house..

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Thought the laughing gas would suffice.. Unfortunately it did not..

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When the baby was born!

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Having skin-to-skin contact πŸ™‚

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All bundled up and receiving guests..

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Excited big aunt carrying him.. haha..

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When we came back home and i was changing him.. Super duper cutie pie πŸ™‚

Christmas 2016

It was a pretty intense end of year for us as a choir. We were participating in a few events and caroling sessions to spread the joy of christmas cheer!

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Picture taken on 25th November where we combined with Risen Christ Youth Symphony Orchestra to raise funds for the Assisi Hospice. It was quite fun and we sang 4 songs together with them..

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This was at the Singapore Cricket Club. We did one session for them on Christmas Eve. Last year we only had to sing for Christmas Day mass.. Also, the day before, we were caroling at Sentosa, 2 sessions..

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Then on Christmas Eve night, we performed 2 sets at Goodwood Park Hotel..

I would have to say that as a pregnant lady in her 3rd trimester and having to sing/dance/do a solo.. I think it really took a toll on my body..

Moreover, I had very bad rashes due to the pregnancy and the following day, we had to sing for Christmas Day mass..

Nick and I gave that a miss in the end because I was so burnt out by all the caroling and singing.. It wasn’t the best time.. I slept in and we went for Christmas Day Mass at SMOTA instead..

Although it wasn’t the best ending to the year, I did enjoy myself doing what I love most – Singing.

Having a baby

Well, it’s been 2 weeks since Nathanael came.. Maybe I should share what the birth experience was like… Also, backlogging my posts because I didn’t have the energy/feels to do it when I was in my third trimester.

So let me recap what happened…..

Nathanael was supposed to be due on 22nd Feb (2 days ago actually). Since our 36th week of pregnancy, we were told to come back weekly for check up with the gynae.. On our 37th week check up, I mentioned to the doctor that Nathanael was moving less in my tummy, although he still moves, it wasn’t as active as before. He took an ultrasound and deemed that everything was ok, his development was fine, the amniotic fluid was fine.

However, on our 38th week, I told him that he still isn’t as active as before and when he scanned, he noticed that the amniotic fluid was low and told us that we had to induce labour for the baby to come out..

The reason is this: Amniotic fluid in the womb is actually the baby’s pee. If the fluid is low, it means that the baby isn’t peeing enough which in turn suggests that the placenta is no longer efficient in providing the baby nutrients to grow..

As he is already 38 weeks along and fully developed by then, the doctor told us that the baby can come out already the next day.. We definitely weren’t ready for that! It was only the beginning of Feb when we found out..

So that day, when my husband went back to work, I went home and got ready most of the baby things.. Thank God we packed the hospital bag when we hit the final trimester and got everything that the baby needed before he came..

I put the mattress cover over the mattress, anticipating to do it that weekend instead.. Checked and double checked that we had everything.. Mum came in the evening and Nick came home early from work.. We did our last minute packing and then we went to mum’s place for dinner and rested until it was time to check into the hospital..

Our gynae kept emphasizing to check in after 12mn as any earlier would have additional charges and it would be considered a day’s stay. So after mn, we checked into the delivery suite and there, we waited..

I was dilated at 2cm which did not seem to be opening at all. So at 1am, a nurse inserted a pill into the vagina and we rested.. However, when my doctor came in the morning, he asked why I looked so comfortable.. Apparently, the pill didn’t work.. So he manually burst my water bag at 7am.. I was quite sad because I thought he could come out early and it was definitely a waiting game at this point in time..

There was another couple who checked in about the same time as us and they were out of the delivery suite by morning.. So imagine how sad I was that I had to spend MORE time in the delivery suite..

After the water bag burst, I still didn’t want an epidural but I wasn’t ready for how bad the contractions were to come. I thought using the laughing gas would suffice but it wasn’t.. I felt like I was inhaling plastic and gave up after a while.. Our gynae came before lunch time to check up on us but I was only dilated 3-4cm.. I couldn’t take the pain anymore so I requested for an epidural..

I was scared when the epidural was inserted and moved quite a bit but the anesthetist was super skilled and he put it in with no problem.. and thankfully the nurse was there and I held her hand because the contractions were painful and I was scared..

Right after the epidural was inserted, the pain was gone.. I relaxed much easier and even managed to sleep for a while.. Then, it was lunch time, so I told Nick to go and have his lunch and then come back and hopefully the baby will be out..

Just when he left, I felt the contractions coming in strong again.. I thought the epidural isn’t working.. I called for a nurse and she upped the amount of epidural.. I could feel like I needed to pass motion and needed to push.. She checked my dilation and I was up to 9cm.. FINALLY!! Just 1cm more to go then the baby can come out.. At that time, Nick was still having lunch and the nurse started prepping for the arrival of the little one.. I was getting excited.. like finally, we can leave this cold place!

When Nick came back, he thought I had given birth but I told him I can give birth already.. LOL.. We waited for the doctor to arrive.. Before he arrived, 2 nurses came in and asked me to push so that the baby’s head would be 10% out by the time our gynae arrived..

I pushed a few times and she said very good!! can see the head!! nick went to see and he was like OMG I CAN SEE HIS HEAD! hahaha.. he has hair!! it was quite funny.. and then on another push, they told me to stop and just rest.. And they said the baby was sliding out by himself.. I thought he was sliding back in..

Anyway, our gynae finally arrived and I gave 1.5 pushes and Nathanael was out! After that everything happened so fast.. Nick cut the umbilical cord and then oversaw the baby when the nurse was checking him and our gynae was stitching me up and removing the placenta..

We requested for some skin contact time and it was nice πŸ™‚ I actually look refreshed in the pictures because I didn’t have to push so much.. The pushing and delivering of the baby only took 15-20mins? But the labour part to dilate took WAAAAYYYY Β much longer.. 14hrs to be exact.. It was a super long labour.. But I’m glad we didn’t have to do an emergency c-sect..

Then, we were pushed to our single-bedded ward which was super nice at St Raphael Ward in Mount Alvernia Hospital. It was one of the older wards as there was a new St Michael Ward but we were happy with it anyways..

The next few days were a huge blur as so many people came and visited us at the hospital and then we were discharged from the hospital 2 days later..

Outing with Snowie

On Hari Raya Haji, mum, nick and I took snowie to the Botanic Gardens on a whim. Mum says she misses me and since she didn’t see us on Saturday (which was not our fault btw), she came to pick us up before heading to the gardens.

We had lunch at Cafe Verde because that’s the only place in Botanic Gardens that allows dogs when sitting outside. Lunch took a while because the kitchen was overwhelmed. Since like everyone went there for lunch with their pets.

Lucky it started raining while we were still sitting at the cafe. Mum had to shift for a while but at least we had shelter πŸ™‚

After the rain stopped, we started our walk!

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had to wear the patch because a garden definitely has lots of mozzies.

We came across some insects and here’s a dragonfly!

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Then, we saw someone feeding a squirrel. I feel like their tail is the wire brush. hahahaha!

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After walking for about an hour, our little furry friend’s underside was super wet and dirty because she actually likes walking through puddles and grass and kept sniffing at the lamp posts.

She always tries to avoid other dogs. So when a couple of poodles wanted to approach her, someone else with 2 poms went to make friends with the poodles, and she just walked a larger circle to avoid contact. My funny dog. hahahaha.

Here is the not so little pooch fluffed out after the walk. Her face is just one of tiredness. HAHAHA!

it was a nice day and the weather was good. so all was good! πŸ™‚

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What happened all this time?

Well, a lot has happened since getting married. Firstly, it was a breath of relief once the wedding day was over and the renovations for our flat was done. However, not everything was done up in our house because we were waiting for HIP (Home Improvement Programme) to be done. This was where the government renovated all the toilets in blocks that are more than 30 years old. I’ve seen the contractors shift from one column of blocks to another until they came round to my block. Our HIP was scheduled for end July and ends in early August. They have a total of 10 working days (excluding Sundays) to fix the toilets for us.

We were contemplating whether to stay in or stay out of the house during this period. Due to a condition (where I will share more about in another post), we decided it was in everyone’s best interest to shift out because the amount of dust is just… HORRIFYING. the lift landing was super dusty and the lift itself was dusty. The column that I was in has 4 units sharing a common lift. Multiplied by 12 storeys and when the HIP started, it was going on concurrently at least 2 columns of units at one time. So the lift was pretty difficult to assess to. At least I could walk down one flight of stairs and go to another lift at the other side of the block. The congestion was just too much to bear. And I felt especially bad because these workers actually gave way to the residents before taking the lifts up themselves. Imagine the waiting time! And they were taking the lifts to transport gates, doors, toilet accessories etc which was just sad!

So we spent 2 weeks at my mum’s place where I found it SUPER convenient (it’s in Toa Payoh btw) and I was just amazed at how CONVENIENT it was for me to get ANYWHERE. I can go to PS for my facials, head to Chinatown Point for work if I need to and get home by taking NEL to Woodleigh before changing to a bus which stops on the same side as their house. And I could see Snowie everyday to boot! I miss Snowie actually. Her silliness and nonsense self. hahaha.

HIP ended early August but we didn’t shift back immediately because there were more things to be done to our house. We held back fixing furniture in the master bedroom because of the works that were to be done for HIP. So we waited another week for that to be done. Then had to wait yet another week because we were getting the painters in to repaint our place. We put up plastic sheets all over the house and when we tore the masking tape away, after about 2 weeks, paint was dropping from everywhere. So our ID got the painters to come in and do it once again for us.

Then after that, we had to wait for some movers to come back to help us fix furniture that my great aunt gave us. It was pretty solid wood and in relatively good condition as they were migrating. So our entire house is FINALLY done as of today πŸ™‚

However, we still need to buy a couch and unpack 3 more boxes of stuff before we have really “shifted” in. Really funny isn’t it. We’ve been staying here since May but only until end Aug have we really settled in.

I’m really happy with how the entire house turned out, albeit for the dust that we’re encountering with now. HAHA.

Anyway, what really happened since May? Well, I was feeling majorly unwell for 3 whole weeks. That I thought it was because I was trying to adjust this new found “freedom” and staying alone in the house all day. Being cooped up and bored and basically just not feeling like doing anything. But things got a bit better and now I’m finally settling into things with my new part time job and housecleaning etc.

Well, this has been a pretty long update but seriously, so much has happened since I shifted.

Wedding Vendors

So, I’ve decided to compile a list of all the vendors and things we did for the wedding.

Location: Church of the Risen Christ

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Wedding Dress: Β Vivian Gown

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Make-up & Hair: Jenny Goh from Autelier

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Shoes: Anna Nucci

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Flowers: Floral Magic

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Wedding Favours: Chocolate Graphics

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Manicure & Pedicure: Amelie Beaute

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Dessert Table: AWESOME SECONDARY SCHOOL FRIENDS ❀

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Canvas Print: Print on Canvas

Photography: Ryan & Wenjun

Choir: Church Mates πŸ™‚

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Wedding: Favours

N and I were wondering what type of wedding favours to give to our guests. We wanted to make do without any. But since we went for the Rasel event, we were introduced to Chocolate Graphics. The quality of the chocolates were fantastic as well. We chose the penguin couple from our “Save the Date” invites cos they’re so cute!

Anyway, we went with a simple, basic design for small chocolates and their boxes. I was quite glad that the box colour matched our theme PERFECTLY. it was a really nice shiny dark blue which was classic.

This was the finished product:

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was a pity that not all were taken.. Aunty Ann even brought home a few to UK the week after. LOL!

The Proposal

One year ago, I said “yes” to my best friend, my confidante, the one I choose to love. A year later, I said “I do”. Well, since I didn’t blog about the proposal. Here it goes:

On our one year anniversary, we booked a staycation at Village Hotel Changi. It was a pretty nice place but getting a carpark lot there was difficult as there was a wedding going on at the same time.

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We were greeted with this elaborate towel decoration which was very nice.

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Take picture with the swans! πŸ˜€ We went to explore the hotel before heading to dinner at La Cantina. The scenary was very pretty. I actually knew he was going to propose during this staycation, just that I didn’t know how and when. HAHA. So during dinner, he asked me to stretch out my hand. And I asked, “which hand?” and he said any one. Dang, so it wasn’t going to be at the restaurant.

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Instead, he passed me a rock. The rock above in fact. It was so cute and sweet of him! What are the odds of seeing a heart shaped rock with I ❀ YOU inscribed on it? LOL!

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Me and the pretty rock πŸ™‚

Little did I know, the proposal was executed after our dinner, when we were returning back to our room. He had engaged a friend and his wife to help set up. I walked into this:

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It was darker then. But he wanted to document everything about the proposal so we could revisit it in pictures whenever we wanted to.

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There were balloons everywhere! And he presented a very lovely bouquet of gerberas (after learning that it was my favourite flower)

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This was tastefully decorated on the bed. But the note was under a pillow, which had another present on top of it which was our anniversary present from him to me.

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A carousel! It was pretty heavy though. Made in Italy if I’m not wrong and had some crystals in it. I was really touched by the effort put in by him and our friends (my relatives) LOL.

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With the HUGE-ASS bouquet of flowers. It was VERY HEAVY for 40 stalks. Such pretty flowers πŸ™‚ The florist dyed the tips of the white ones blue! haha. such a heavily themed proposal πŸ˜› hmmm. maybe that’s why his mum thinks I love the colour blue.

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After everything was said and done, we hung out with the couple that helped him. They did ask if I was surprised. I certainly was. I thought it was going to be a quiet affair – just the both of us. Little did I know he had some help. LOL. The room was very well decorated and I was very happy with the way it was executed πŸ™‚

Wedding: Rings

We got our diamonds from a boutique jeweller from Ilya Diamonds. The founder, Juliana, is N’s personal friend who was introduced from a colleague. We went to her to get t he engagement ring done as well. We actually bought our wedding bands from couple lab. But after an encounter that N had, he decided that he wanted to get personalised wedding bands for us πŸ™‚

Are you ready to see the rings?

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TA-DAHHHHH~!!!!!

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Super pretty right! The thicker one on the left is N’s and the one on the right is mine! πŸ˜€ N’s one is hammered metal in the middle and is pretty broad for his finger. We just hope and pray that we can still wear it on the day itself. HAHA. It’s just so exciting. Having such a gorgeous wedding band. Actually, wedding bands are meant to be simple so that it’s wearable everyday and weather proof. But we decided to go with aesthetics instead >.<

Juliana is really a good designer and will customize however you fancy your ring. I think she did a golden snitch before as an engagement ring for a customer whose partner loves harry potter. So if you’re planning to customise your rings, can try her out πŸ™‚